INNER RELATIONSHIP FOCUSING
WHAT IS FOCUSING?
Inner Relationship Focusing is a gentle therapeutic process that allows you to access your body’s inherent wisdom. It involves taking your awareness inside to find the answers that you may be unable to find with thinking alone. In fact, scientific research has found that this inner knowing contains 95-97% more information than we receive from our thoughts and emotions.
In the practice you learn to listen deeply to your inner felt experience with compassion, patience and curiosity. Acknowledging and being with whatever shows up can lead to transformational insights, healing of trauma and resolution of other problematic mental, physical, emotional and spiritual issues. The result is that the next step forward is revealed, leading you into greater health, happiness, creativity and possibility.
After Focusing I began to realize that who I am is beyond the on-going judgments about the circumstances and thoughts in my head. That awareness enables me to shift out of reactions into a quiet place within that is detached from my reactions but still engaged, although in a different, creative way. I respond in a way that creates better relationships.”
HOW FOCUSING CAN HELP
Because Focusing can address virtually any issue that you may be facing, a list of them would be way too lengthy to itemize here. For that reason I’ll mention a few that my students and clients have found Focusing to be very helpful in relieving or resolving.
You might like to try Focusing if you are:
- wanting to improve communication in your relationships
- experiencing seemingly insolvable points of conflict in marriage or other partnerships
- having difficulty making decisions, feeling stuck.
- living with grief or chronic pain
- unable to stick to commitments you’ve made to yourself for your well-being, like better eating habits, exercise routines, or meditation/mindfulness
- feeling misunderstood and longing to be heard and having your needs met
- yearning for more meaningful conversation and personal relationships
- wanting to get a better sense of what’s in your heart, “What do I want?”
- longing for peace in mind, body and spirit
If your particular challenge isn’t on this list, I encourage you to arrange a free phone consultation with me to get a better sense of how Focusing might help you with your particular issue.
You might be wondering how one process can address so many seemingly different problems. The answer is that Focusing addresses the underlying root causes of the problem rather than trying to eliminate symptoms.
WHERE DOES FOCUSING COME FROM?
Eugene Gendlin “discovered” focusing as a result of research he did with Carl Rogers in the 1960s when he became curious about why some people are successful in therapy and others are not. What he discovered was that those who were able to find what he called a “felt sense” of an experience had more positive outcomes. As a philosopher on the faculty of the University of Chicago, Gendlin created a whole philosophical model to show how and why focusing works.
Over the decades since his discovery, focusing practitioners and teachers have spread all over the world and continue to develop Focusing in myriad ways.
Inner Relationship Focusing is a further development of Focusing created over many years of work by my teachers Ann Weiser-Cornell and Barbara McGavin.
Every bad feeling is potential energy toward a more right way of being if you give it space to move toward its rightness
